FRIEND!!!... a word losing its identity

Its Friendship Week!!

How many friends did u add to your list last Year. Hey sorry, not those friends on your Orkut list, where things happen on the decision of your finger tips, clicking an inch away makes or breaks a friend. Of course, am referring to those whom you value so much and they value you so much that they don’t want YOU to lose on any anything even at the cost of breaking your friendship..

Hmm anyways would u like to know some of the myths of this often casually used word “Friend”? Sooo casually used that someone whom you met few hours ago might introduce you as a FRIEND to his/ her so called Friends..

- Are those gangs of people whom you hang out with every day your friends?
- Is that stranger, whom you found more attractive and got close in a week, and kept hanging out/ exchanging messages/ phone calls, is he / she your friend?
- Are those people around you, who listen to all your angst and happiness all the time, when you feel like pouring out your expressions?
- Is that psychologist/ therapist who listen to all your problems?
- Is that person who stood by you at a difficult time and helped you out of a crisis?
- And are those strangers, whose kindness was so necessary that your so called friends had let you down?

How can someone be your friend just if you can’t confide in them? Or if it was just for the situations that you have got to meet them and share some time, how can they be your friends. Or someone, whom you pay to listen to all your angst and joy, can be a friend?

You can look back into your life, and find out all those so called friends, whom you considered the Best for the reason that they helped you out of a crisis and you now barely know what’s happening with him/her for the reason that your friendship had just lasted till you tide over the crisis.

Can you remember the Friends whom you considered for the reason you hang out/ go around so frequently, for, they are available freely all the time, and now you never like their acquaintance for the reason they don’t get along with your views and life style?

Do you remember that day, when you were in such a difficult situation, that you badly need someone’s support and a wise advice, your so called Best friend, for the reason you know them for long time, react so coldly and couldn’t empathize the way you need then.

Can someone be our friend just for the reason that you have a lot to share with?


Certainly not all these are your friends.

If you can look back into your life, you will see that sensible and practical person who stood by your side at the time of all your crises and to whom you had always turned to for his/her unbiased and helpful advice. He/she never put things evading and let you know the right way to do the things, so that you are respected and happy in the long run though it may hurt you for that moment. He/she would come back to you every time you have misunderstandings, and would like to go ahead with a fresh day so that you are back on the same lines. He/ she would always plan for your future well in advance to make sure that you never end up in problems. May be he/she was a bore to party/ dance with. He/she may not be that special to you as you feel when you meet someone once in a while. Sense of warmth and sharing and caring are what you exchange with this person but you never felt him a special friend for he is around everyday and your special ness is reserved for whom you have that instant attraction.

So do you know who your real friends are?

Here comes the question, do you get along with your friends forever, if not what is the time frame, and is it important to have a friend for life, or if he/ she is worth that?

Have you ever seen or experienced people who claim you or some one around you the best friend and had moved along, and now even doesn’t know your whereabouts? and considering someone else as the best friend? I mean, those people who have time frames and situations attached to Friendships?

It’s very common and you can make a good list of such ppl, if you can see around for a while. But what should have been the reason behind that behavior. Its an out of the scope question unless you were of that kind. For someone a best friend is some one who is along forever and for some one a best friend is someone who cares you so much and for someone a best friend is someone who is readily accessible and attractive. For some they are serious and committed and for some they are just plain words. But, what is the kind of reaction you have when you have to come across someone who considered you the best friend and now you are a complete stranger of course for that person is another best friend around? Take it for accepted, for, the meaning of friendship is different for different people..

So be sure you know what your friend considers the meaning of friendship as. And make sure that you are not in a situation that your friend sits beside you and you still could not talk the way it was once. This is the worst loneliness one can experience…
Make sure you don’t end up in a situation where the person who considered you the best friend had gone along with his/ her life and you still expect that old emotions from him/her. Choose your friends wisely, for the true friends are those who turn up at your funeral and certainly not those whom you party with, go out nights with, go on summer vacations and certainly not those with whom you exchange all those flirting messages ….

I did found my true friends and am happy and more than lucky to have these true people as my true friends… <ACIDS>….Did you find yours?..

Did you miss few of them from your list of Friends, for all those unknown misunderstandings... Did you move away from one of your Friends whom you felt was a true Friend, Do you miss him/ her really? its not too late.. wrap all that EGO in a tight polythene and quarantine while you go to your lost Friend and Greet a happy friendship day, a heart full hand shake or a hug... Your heart would be more than joyful, you will feel that great difference and ... So...come on..get ready walk to your friend/ pick up the phone and talk to your friend.....

Happy Friendship Week and Day

Dedicated to ACIDS and all my TRUE Friends…….

Killer Instincts!!!!!!!

It was when I had gone thru the local newspapers found
"A 25yr old person stabbed.........."

But the same kinda news
" Woman ends life in......"
"Teenager commits ssuicide after..."
" A Man kills her wife to............."
"Son kills father at...."
also appear so frequently on news papers.

I wondered how soemone whom you shared with most of the best moments in life, can be gunned down. I agreed with the existence of these crimes after I realised that we do have situations and meet people who act to the heights of insanity, that we often feel that it would be a better world for me if it/he/she will never exist. But, every time, these feelings or emotios are lost in the air after few seconds, once we are persuaded by our subconcious...

What would have happened if we also had gone insane and never looked back to have our subconscious act on its role at that moment...
What would have happened if the person never ceased to stop being insane taking the advantage of your calm.........

......Answer would be, I and You would have been on the news papers as one of the above..
I was trying to find out an answer how some thing can be done to avoid such a crime.. But even before I started to find the answers, I have started searching even more such crimes in the past news papers.

However more than 80% of the crimes are not committed by the so called criminlas, they are situation driven, more often the situations brought up by the victim out of his/ her insanity to make the subject person make the crime. (Unless the subject person is not psychologically ill.)

Most of the crimes confirm that the reasons for the crime are: being betarayed, experiencing disloyalty, shown unfaithfulness.
The words above are so commonly used that their meaning and context of usage convey nothing more than a simple sentence of general desciption. However the truth is that experiencing one of the above three situations to the heights would make one end others life.

Its simple, Every game has rules, So does the life. One would be inside the game untill he/she plays the game obeying the rules. once you don't care for those rules of life, you are out of the game, for which the whole nature around you and the situations around you will make it happen.


After knowing these facts
"Care for others feelings, empathise with the situations of the people around you. Listen to your subconscious with diligence. Live a life that would make life with you a harmony for people around you." is what i thought should help out.......